Todd Rose is a dyslexic, ADD, a school drop out who found his way after marrying and having child. Now he’s a professor at Harvard address learning issues. Take a listen to this talk he gave on TEDx
Challenges in giving feedback.
I am taking a Speaking Circles speaking class with Lee Glickstein in San Francisco. http://www.speakingcircles.com
Over the last ten years I have worked with him and his colleague, Doreen Hamilton, in part to improve my speaking skills but also to discover what it is I have to say about a topic. The sessions are taped. I often transcribe them to see what I can learn about my speaking skills and the topics.
Over the last month, during two different Speaking Circle sessions, I addressed feedback. As part of the class process we are asked to give positive feedback on the other speakers’ comments. I have a block with this aspect of the class. I sense other dyslexics/hyperlexics might have a similar experience and thought my learning on this topic might be useful.
This blog is reporting almost verbatim my talk – a spontaneous narrative.
I want to talk about feedback. I have real terror giving feedback in this class. I realized it tonight. I am watching my whole body. Oh god, will the words come up. I don’t know what it is but words don’t want to come easily in feedback. I have no problem talking but I sure do with this required feedback.
Years ago when I was married my husband was a stage designer. He would always say to me: Come and take a look at what I have done and tell me what you think. My whole body would go into terror. Oh my God, I can’t. So, I would stumble through but I never felt good about what I was doing.
Years later I discovered that I am hyperlexic which means I don’t image well. So, the cat has a pink tail that wiggles. I often only see the words but I don’t always see images. Yes, I have been trained to image so I am better at this now but if I don’t have an image and I only see the words, then my left and right brain don’t work well together. I have a sense this is what is going on here. Physically my brain does something weird. It doesn’t coordinate. It is very frustrating. Honestly I don’t know what the answer is.
I was thinking about this during the break after the first session. I said to myself, if I had my magic markers I could tell you very fast what I felt. That is not a problem. This really points out the issue of words for me. I have spent my life in the theater, opera primarily, not as a singer. I can see and have seen over the last ten years why opera, not theater has been my choice – because, theater is about words. I space out if I am not imaging as fast as the words are spoken. Chooooo, I am gone.
I was at Yale at the Drama School. They are very verbal people. At that point I didn’t know what the condition was. Thankfully, they are also heartfelt people. I never felt uncomfortable but I felt bloody well frustrated because I couldn’t conjure up what I needed to say.
I don’t quite know how to solve this.
More insights on this topic on my next blog.